I just finished reading The Lost Art of Listening for one of my social work classes.
"Few motives in human experience are as powerful as the yearning to be understood."
I think everyone should read this book--it changes how you view yourself and makes you seriously reevaluate your listening skills. It goes through how to listen to and communicate with your spouse, your children, friends, co-workers, bosses. I thought I was a pretty good listener... before I read this book. You learn how to set aside your own agenda while listening, and learn how to listen with empathy. It's amazing how much people need to be listened to. After reading this, I believe that many self-insecurity issues would be improved if individuals had someone that will not only listen to them, but that is truly striving to understand them.
Read it! See how you can improve your relationships by simply listening and understanding with empathy.
Get it here.
"When two people are locked in silent grievance, the best way to break the impasse is to elicit and acknowledge the other person's feelings."
"Successful parents learn to shift their style of parenting to accommodate to their children's development."
"Being listened to creates a sense of being understandable and worth-while.
Not being listened to fosters insecurity."